You’re walking down the street and you see a guy playing the shell game. (The three card monte would also work for this example, but the shell game is a personal favorite of mine.)
You think to yourself, “I see people winning. I’m smarter than them. I could win money, too.”
And so you play.
And you lose money.
Now here’s the secret of the game. Not the sleight of hand secret, but the real “how these street hustlers makes money” secret. The people that look like they are winning money in a street hustle are shills. They are part of the con job team. And how can you identify a team member? If they win money, they’re part of the team.
“But, but,” some ask, “don’t they let you win a small first bet to sucker the victim into betting big money?”
That’s a big no 99.9999% of the time. It’s probably a good guess that the “let you win the small bet” theory was circulated by hustlers to get victims to lose that small bet because small bets do add up.
If you try to bet on the right shell what happens?
Your wager won’t be taken. You’ll be told your bet isn’t big enough and/or the hustler will take the fake bigger bet of a shill.
There’s a shell game going on in your head right now.
It’s not the shells or even the three card monte. It’s social media, particularly Facebook.
And in the US we are neck deep in FPS – Facebook Political Season – so it’s only going to get worse.
If you don’t play, you can’t lose.
If you play, you won’t win.
But you will lose time, emotional energy, possibly friends, and maybe even clients.
Yes, I know you have political opinions. Me, too.
Do you honestly think Facebook arguments and insults are the best way, or even a good way, to express them? Do you think snark or battling snark is worthwhile? If so, then wrestle a pig and not get muddy.
Are there exceptions to this? Sure.
…if you’re living neck deep in heavy sturm und drang action because of social media
…if you’re having long debates, then deleting when the ugly sets in
…if you’re frequently writing posts about having to unfriend someone
…if people are frequently writing posts about having to unfriend you
…if you’re writing posts that are the length of War & Peace wannabes
…if you’re arguing with people you wouldn’t know if you saw them in person six feet away
…if you’re confusing Facebook activity with actual accomplishment
…then maybe, just maybe, you should …
Like the shell game, the best bet is to stay out of the game.